Love Life with Matthew Hussey

8: The Dumbest Mistake People Make In Dating

Mar 13, 2020

10:22

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In this podcast, Matthew Hussey discusses the dumbest mistake people make in dating and why being sweet to a flakey guy can actually be effective. He explains the power of ruthless actions and kind tone in dating, and the importance of setting and maintaining standards. Hussey also emphasizes the significance of focusing on the desired outcome in dating and relationships, and taking decisive actions to achieve happiness and peace.

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Express consequences through actions rather than tone in dating.

Focus on the desired results and prioritize personal happiness and peace in dating and relationships.

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The Power of Actions in Dating

In this podcast episode, the host emphasizes the importance of expressing consequences through actions rather than tone in dating. He introduces the concept of the Bliss Point, which refers to the ideal balance between sweet and salty communication when conveying one's standards. While some may argue for expressing anger through tone, the host argues that being ruthless in one's actions, while maintaining a kind and positive tone, is more effective. He cautions against wearing all the consequences in one's tone and none in their actions, highlighting the power of demonstrating standards through actions.

Introduction

2min

The Power of Ruthless Actions and Kind Tone in Dating

5min

Focusing on the Result You Want

3min

Last episode we talked about how to respond to a flakey guy using “Bliss Point” text messages - which combines being salty and sweet to make someone WANT to pursue you and live up to your standards.

Except… Some of the more angry responses said things like: “Matt, why would I even think about being sweet to a guy who flakes on a date?? He should be chasing me already, and if not, I have a right to be angry when I text back…”

To tell you the truth, I’m really glad these comments came up (and I kind of expected it). In this week’s podcast, we explain why this response relates to a huge mistake 99% of people make in dating. Make sure you don’t fall into this common trap...

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