How to Leave Your People Pleasing Era. [Episode 9]
Feb 16, 2024
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Learn how to leave your people-pleasing era with actionable steps and personal anecdotes. Discover the balance between giving and setting boundaries, explore self-reflection through 'the ick', and recognize and address people-pleasing behaviors. Plus, check out recommended resources and engage with the host on various platforms.
Identify specific people-pleasing behaviors to overcome tendencies.
Practice wide-ranging empathy to make thoughtful decisions and set boundaries.
Deep dives
Understanding People-Pleasing Behavior
People-pleasing behavior often stems from unconscious knee-jerk responses, not conscious manipulation. It's essential to stop labeling yourself as a people-pleaser and instead focus on specific behaviors that lean towards people-pleasing. Identifying and managing responses to disapproval from others helps in overcoming these tendencies.
Practicing Wide-Ranging Empathy
Wide-ranging empathy involves understanding the consequences of one's actions on oneself, the other person involved, and potential third parties. Applying empathy helps in making thoughtful decisions and setting boundaries that align with personal needs and values. This form of empathy differs from self-focused behavior and enhances confidence in interactions.
Embracing Generous Giving with Boundaries
Effective giving involves understanding personal limits and ensuring that giving feels good and aligns with individual boundaries. It's about generous giving that energizes and uplifts, rather than depleting oneself. Balancing generosity with maintaining boundaries helps in avoiding restrictive behaviors and embracing the joy of giving.
Hey!
On today's ep, I'm diving into the topic of *how to exit your people-pleasing era*. I have worked v hard (and tbh continue!! To work) to let go of behaviours akin to accepting icecreams that will make me feel physically unwell (watch the ep!!) - and have SO much to share on this topic.
Social Anxiety Episode on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BVvBtock4v0PytPB8BqS3?si=3d3a21b3802846f1
CHAPTERS
0:00 Intro
1:38 Step One
3:48 Step Two
6:14 Step Three
11:20 Step Four
13:17 Step Five
18:03 Step Six
19:48 Mini Moves
31:37 Reccs of The Week
RECCS OF THE WEEK
✨ The Art of Giving and Receiving - https://amzn.to/3SZDxVt
✨ I Gave Consent For S** I Didn't Want to Have - https://www.newsweek.com/i-gave-consent-unwantred-sex-1697653
✨ Did You Say Something, Susan? (Second Edition): How Any Woman Can Gain Confidence with Assertive Communication - https://amzn.to/48fhoqB
SHOP
✨ The Intention App - Manage Your Mind to Create a Life That Feels Good ⇢ https://www.theintentionapp.com/
✨ The Life Map - Part eBook, part digital workbook. Use The Life Map (2.0) to create your most incredible year yet ⇢ https://www.muchelleb.com.au/the-life-map
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