Who We Are with Rachel Lim #31: Raising a Champion: Parenting Lessons From the Maeders
In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with Valentin and Hwee Keng Maeder, the inspiring parents behind Singapore’s young kitefoiling champion, Max Maeder. I was incredibly curious to learn how Max — a world-class athlete with remarkable character, mental strength, discipline, and resilience — was raised to be not only successful but also grounded and confident. From the interviews I’ve watched and read, Max strikes me as an exceptional athlete and a genuinely great person, someone clearly brought up with strong values.
His parents generously share their unique journey, revealing how they nurtured his independence, embraced failures as essential to growth, and created a safe space where their children could explore their passions without fear of judgement. With practical lessons on balancing personal expectations, resisting societal pressures, and fostering courage and authenticity, this conversation offers an inspiring glimpse into the values and insights that shaped Max and his siblings, providing guidance for parents everywhere striving to raise grounded, confident children.
00:00 Introduction
01:25 Get To Know The Maeders
03:42 Nurturing Independence in Children
08:05 Addressing Fear with Probability
10:19 The Maeders' Unconventional Parenting Views
12:59 Creating Safe Spaces at Home
15:46 Parenting Through Different Stages
18:40 Family Rituals That Strengthen Bonds
20:14 Max’s Journey: Solo Travels at Age 11
22:58 Guiding Children Through Failure
26:36 The Myth of Perfect Parenting
30:13 Breaking Generational Patterns
35:13 The Maeder’s Approach on Discipline
37:47 Navigating Conflict and Reconciliation
38:43 Prioritising Yourself and Letting Go of Parental Expectations
41:02 Going Against Societal Norms and Pressure
45:09 Final Reflections and Key Takeaways
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