The Sabrina Zohar Show 164: Overexplaining, Overthinking, Overtexting? Here’s Why
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Oct 3, 2025 Dive into the emotional patterns that derail relationships, exploring the concept of protest behavior. Discover how fear of abandonment leads to over-texting, withdrawal, and people-pleasing. Personal anecdotes highlight these behaviors and their roots in early beliefs. Learn practical tools to manage texting urges, set boundaries, and practice self-soothing. Understand the cycle of emotional escalation and how it impacts connection. The conversation emphasizes vulnerability and effective communication as pathways to healthier relationships.
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Why Protest Behavior Exists
- Protest behaviors are unconscious actions triggered when your nervous system senses abandonment or disconnection.
- These behaviors aim to restore connection but are often maladaptive and self-sabotaging.
The 173-Text Confession
- Sabrina admits she used to be the 'poster child' for protest behavior, overtexting and timing responses.
- She uses her own 173-text example to show how extreme pursuing looks in real life.
Behavioral Activation Drives Pursuit
- The behavioral activation system triggers contact-seeking to restore connection when you feel disconnected.
- These contact-seeking actions are maladaptive because they often create the opposite result.