Episode 430: Should I quit this job I'm underqualified for and honestly torpedoed my promo chances
Oct 14, 2024
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Dive into a discussion about job satisfaction, imposter syndrome, and the challenge of feeling underqualified in tech. The hosts share humorous anecdotes while offering insights on navigating career choices and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with them. They emphasize the importance of work-life balance and how expressing your feelings can influence promotion prospects. With a jelly bean analogy, they tackle statistics and the pressure in corporate environments, reminding everyone that recognizing accomplishments is vital for mental well-being.
Feeling inadequate is common in tech roles, making constructive feedback essential for gaining confidence and understanding actual performance levels.
Balancing work-life expectations with career advancement is critical, as promotions can offer better control over workload and responsibilities.
Deep dives
Imposter Syndrome in Software Engineering
Many software engineers struggle with feelings of inadequacy and the fear of not belonging in their roles, often leading to depression. One listener shared concerns about their ability to perform well at a large tech company, feeling that their initial success was due to luck rather than skill. It's noted that even high-performing individuals often misinterpret recognition, believing they are being moved around due to poor performance rather than their competence. This misunderstanding highlights how vital it is for individuals to seek constructive feedback from peers and managers to separate their feelings from the reality of their performance.
Navigating Career Growth with Work-Life Balance
Another listener expressed concern about the impact of their desire for work-life balance on potential promotions at their big tech job. They acknowledged receiving positive feedback but felt overwhelmed with responsibilities better suited for more experienced developers. It is emphasized that early-career professionals can still benefit from promotion even while feeling the need to solidify their role, as promotions often provide more control and credibility in managing workload. Open communication with managers about balancing work expectations and personal development should be prioritized, ensuring stress levels are managed regardless of promotion considerations.
The Importance of Feedback for Personal Development
Feedback serves as an essential tool for personal growth and career advancement, particularly in technical fields. Gathering insights from managers and peers can help employees accurately assess their performance rather than rely solely on self-perception. The conversation suggests that new engineers should approach feedback proactively and view discussions about competence not as threats, but as opportunities for development. This approach enables individuals to navigate their careers more confidently by ensuring that they stay aligned with their roles and expectations.
Challenges of Self-Assessment in the Tech Industry
Self-assessment can be particularly challenging in the tech industry, where feelings of inadequacy can overshadow actual performance. The discussion highlights that individuals often focus on flaws or mistakes without recognizing their achievements or the context in which those mistakes occurred. Encouraging engineers to evaluate metrics, seek third-party feedback, and understand their contributions can reshape their perspective on success. This shift can help employees realize that temporary feelings of underperformance do not define their capabilities or future prospects.
In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:
I work at a large tech company, been there for about two years at the time of writing this question. I got in by sheer luck since I’ve interviewed at many teams in this company before finally landing an offer and I’m starting to think I don’t belong. I constantly feel like I don’t do a good job to the point where I’m starting to feel incredibly depressed. My question is, what would you do in this situation? I keep thinking I should leave but it’s not like the work is stressful and not interesting. I also realize I have a pretty solid setup (6 mile no traffic commute, great coworkers, free ev charging, and job security seems solid) so I’m hesitant on giving that up. I also think even if I leave, would I just repeat the cycle again at a new job/company? I’m pretty stuck
I’m a year into my first job at Mega Corp post-graduation. Due to high turnover, I’ve ended up taking on tasks that would have originally gone to more experienced developers. I’ve grown and received positive feedback from my manager and skip manager, who have both mentioned potential for promotion.
However, in my 1:1s, I’ve expressed that I’m not looking for a promotion yet because I want to solidify my current role and improve my work-life balance. I still have many coding fundamentals to develop, and I’ve been stressed and working long hours to take on these responsibilities. I’m now worried that my honesty might have affected my chances of being promoted and that I might be seen as someone not interested in progressing (which is probably frowned upon in big tech).
How should I navigate this situation? Is it okay that I’ve been candid, or should I reconsider my stance on promotion? Thanks!
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