#55: Stop Hiding: How to Turn Guilt Into Growth (Without Shame Dragging You Down)

What do you do after you fall short of your values? If you’re like most of us, you deflect, you hide, and you collapse into toxic shame that severs your self-trust and self-respect. 

But there’s another way to deal with your failures that can actually improve your relationship with yourself and others. 

This other way? 

Acknowledging healthy guilt without falling into the seductive trap of toxic shame. 

It’s not as easy as letting yourself wallow in self-pity - but it’s worth it in the long-term. 

In today’s show, you’ll discover the difference between healthy guilt and toxic shame, the Anatomy of a Healthy Apology, and how you can make amends with yourself and others after you fall short of your values (as all humans do).

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• What to do after falling short of your values so you don’t overwhelm yourself with toxic shame (0:25)  
• How healthy guilt guides you back to your values and even builds your character (and why toxic shame makes your burdens heavier and impossible to deload) (2:24) 
• Why being able to tell the difference between guilt and shame is the first step towards resolving the internal civil war happening inside your body (5:41) 
• How to apologize in a way that builds your character, improves your relationship, and even gets rid of toxic shame stewing beneath the surface (9:36) 
• The 5 parts of the Anatomy of a Healthy Apology (10:32) 
• Here’s a real example of a weak apology after cheating and a strong one that rekindles the trust (13:44) 
• How to use your failures to actually build trust with yourself and with others (22:34) 

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