Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

How to Talk About Money and Build Trust With Your Partner with Heather & Douglas Boneparth

Jan 13, 2026

Heather Boneparth, a former insurance lawyer and co-author of Money Together, and Douglas Boneparth, a financial planner focusing on millennials, join to discuss the intricate relationship between love and money. They reveal why financial tensions persist in even the wealthiest couples and introduce the concept of 'financial infidelity.' The duo emphasizes the importance of transparency, explores childhood money stories, and suggests that prenups can serve as beneficial tools for setting expectations and protecting both partners’ values.

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ADVICE

Protect Time To Refill Relationship Energy

Protect and prioritize time with loved ones to sustain relationship energy and connection.
Encourage separate social outlets so each partner can refill and return refreshed to the relationship.

ANECDOTE

Career Shift During COVID Revealed Money Identity

Heather left a steady corporate law job to join Bonafide Wealth after COVID reshaped family roles.
She unwrapped deep ties between her paycheck, identity, and self-worth while writing their book.

INSIGHT

Money Is Identity, Not Just Numbers

Money conversations tap into identity, insecurity, culture, and trauma from childhood.
Earning more doesn't erase those early beliefs or their emotional impact in relationships.

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You may be surprised to hear that billionaires get divorced at roughly the same rate as the general population, which demonstrates that no amount of money protects couples from the tension that can arise when finances are at play. Dr. Alexandra often says that money is a tricky topic because at one level, it is very concrete – dollars and cents, spending and saving. But at another level, the topic of money evokes deep and meaningful questions about our core beliefs, our sense of identity, our desires, and our insecurities. To help us explore all of this, Dr. Alexandra is joined by financial-planning power couple Douglas and Heather Boneparth.

You will hear them talk about:

why money continues to be a source of tension for couples, even after couples become objectively successful.
“financial infidelity”, the role shame plays with it, and the Boneparths’ case for financial transparency in your relationship.
how to get past the tangible, more surface-level topics around money to curiously dig deeper and explore why you and your partner feel the way you do about money (and spoiler alert: that story started being written long long ago!).
how to approach prenups.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Money Together: How to find fairness in your relationship and become an unstoppable financial team by Heather and Douglas Boneparth https://bookshop.org/p/books/money-together-how-to-find-fairness-in-your-relationship-and-become-an-unstoppable-financial-team-douglas-boneparth/273465fcc086fc3d
Subscribe to The Joint Account newsletter: https://www.readthejointaccount.com/
Learn more about The Boneparths: https://domoneytogether.com/

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