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ERP 463: How to Make Love Last (From a Biological Perspective) — An Interview with Dr. Liat Yakir

Feb 11, 2025

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Why do some relationships fizzle out while others seem to stand the test of time? We've all heard about the honeymoon phase—those butterflies in the belly, the excitement, and the dopamine rush—but what happens when that stage inevitably wanes? Relationships often hit a crossroads where familiarity sets in, and the novelty fades, posing a significant challenge for couples striving to maintain passion and deep connection. How can we make love last when our biology seems to be working against us?

In this episode, we delve into the profound insights shared by a renowned biologist who explores the complexities of love from a biological standpoint. From understanding the chemicals that drive our attraction and attachment phases to practical strategies for reigniting excitement and intimacy, this conversation offers invaluable advice. Learn how to navigate the intricacies of your own love life by leveraging scientific knowledge to foster long-lasting, healthy relationships. Whether you're in a new relationship or have been with your partner for years, these insights can help you strengthen your bond and keep the spark alive.

Dr. Liat Yakir is a distinguished biologist, writer, and lecturer specializing in the biology of emotions and human behavior. She advises organizations on neuro-management (also known as neuro-leadership), leveraging cutting-edge insights from brain research to cultivate exceptional leadership skills and practices.

Dr. Yakir earned her Ph.D. and completed postdoctoral studies in molecular genetics. She also holds a master’s degree in hormone research. With years of experience in science education and communication, she has made significant contributions at the Davidson Institute for Science Education, the educational arm of the Weizmann Institute

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode

06:40 Understand love through a biological lens.

09:00 The three stages of love.

13:03 Attachment styles and their impact on relationships.

19:15 Why initial attractions can be misleading.

22:28 The conflict between stability and novelty in love.

30:08 The genetics of monogamy and polyamory.

32:53 Increasing dopamine levels to enhance relationships.

36:03 The role of jealousy and status in attraction.

38:11 Maintaining passion and intimacy in long-term relationships.

44:28 Overcoming sexual scripts and routine through play.

46:06 The importance of communication and appreciation in relationships.