
Grief 2 Growth The Million Stages of Grief: Surviving the Unthinkable with Michael Reed | EP 465
In this deeply moving conversation, Brian sits down with Michael Reed, author of The Million Stages of Grief, whose life changed forever on the night of the 2016 Gatlinburg fires. Michael lost his wife Constance and daughters Chloe and Lily in the tragedy—and today, he shares not only his story, but the wisdom, compassion, and hard-earned insight that grew from unimaginable loss.
This episode explores what grief really looks like—messy, nonlinear, human—and why comparing grief (“less than,” “more than,” “should be over it”) only creates more suffering.
You’ll hear how Michael went from suicidal despair to becoming a voice for grievers everywhere.
💡 What You’ll Learn
- Why the “five stages of grief” don’t reflect most people’s real experience
- How men are socialized to hide grief—and how to break that cycle
- The truth about survivor’s guilt
- Faith after tragedy: doubt, anger, surrender, and transformation
- What helped Michael choose to live when he didn’t want to
- How writing became a lifeline
- What it means to move forward without “moving on”
🔗 Guest Links
- 🌐 Website: https://themillionstages.com
- 📘 Book: The Million Stages of Grief (available on Amazon)
- 📱 Follow Michael on social media: listed on his website
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🧭 Interactive Elements
👉 Your Reflection Prompt:
What is one memory of your loved one that brings both pain and comfort?
Share it with us in the comments or reply on Substack—we honor them together.
👉 Your Action Step:
Choose one person who might feel alone in their grief today. Send them this episode and a simple message:
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Grief doesn’t follow stages, timelines, or rules.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I doing this right?”—you’re not alone.
That’s why I created the Grief Check-In.
It’s not a test. There are no right or wrong answers.
In just a few minutes, you’ll gain clarity, reassurance, and language for what you’re experiencing.
👉 Visit grief2growth.com/checkin
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