Episode 448: The problem with self-respect (most hills are not worth dying on)

Jul 22, 2024

Exploring the downside of prioritizing self-respect, this podcast discusses how it can lead to sub-optimal outcomes. Balancing self-respect and achieving objectives is crucial for success and maintaining healthy relationships.

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The Dilemma of Prioritizing Self-Respect Over Other Goals

00:00 • 7min

Balancing self-respect and objective effectiveness in life

07:08 • 4min

People often consider self-respect to be a unilateral positive that has no downside. However, this isn't true. The problem with self-respect is that it is costly. Using Linehan's model of interpersonal effectiveness, I explain why standing up for yourself can often lead to sub-optimal outcomes. This goal should only be prioritized sparingly to ensure objective effectiveness and harmonious relationships.

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