#233; The self-sabotage demon/Perfectionism: NOT a badge of honour/Shifting Beliefs/what about alcohol?/ Marci Nevin

IMPATIENCE

PERFECTIONISM

FIXATING ON STRUGGLES because our wins were never enough

Hit a point where what you know you SHOULD do is also against what you THINK you should do

So doing less, eating more is scary so you keep sabotaging yourself on your way there

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Being afraid to lose your leanness

Especially if you had a history of being over weight & not being confident and trying hard to get there (mostly doing dumbshit)

Sense of control that you can finally wear whatever you want and you didnt want to go back to it

Scared to let go of control

That the identity and perception of self is centered around there

Fear of success -

Oh no, now what…

Mum making comments

Anyone else judging other people

Thoughts are not truths

Feelings are not facts

We may feel they are because we shape those around our upbringing and old beliefs

But it takes alot of work to break those beliefs

When your cognitive load is very high and you have all these thoughts in your brain you have little room for logic to happen

This is why will power and discipline & motivation fall through

You need to act as if and write as with and truly belief it and visualise it and then act in that way -

Patience

Overeating, self soothing, perfectionist & avoiding emotions

Over analysing

Wont take action at all

If you are not taking action because you don't think youre going to be perfect then you arent even putting yourself up there to go out there

How is that serving you if you arent allowing yourself

Quell unsettling emotions

You have a problem with yourself but wont do anything about it

Now you have guilt and shame

Now it leaks into other

Alcohol

Path of least resistance - not face it and

1- celebrate wins - its your evidence for when you are doing well

Its showing you that you are capable

Hey look at me making these changes you can do it

Always write down at least 1 win ever single day, you will always find something in there and if you cant… youll start creating the reality of making them