

#233; The self-sabotage demon/Perfectionism: NOT a badge of honour/Shifting Beliefs/what about alcohol?/ Marci Nevin
IMPATIENCE
PERFECTIONISM
FIXATING ON STRUGGLES because our wins were never enough
Hit a point where what you know you SHOULD do is also against what you THINK you should do
So doing less, eating more is scary so you keep sabotaging yourself on your way there
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Being afraid to lose your leanness
Especially if you had a history of being over weight & not being confident and trying hard to get there (mostly doing dumbshit)
Sense of control that you can finally wear whatever you want and you didnt want to go back to it
Scared to let go of control
That the identity and perception of self is centered around there
Fear of success -
Oh no, now what…
Mum making comments
Anyone else judging other people
Thoughts are not truths
Feelings are not facts
We may feel they are because we shape those around our upbringing and old beliefs
But it takes alot of work to break those beliefs
When your cognitive load is very high and you have all these thoughts in your brain you have little room for logic to happen
This is why will power and discipline & motivation fall through
You need to act as if and write as with and truly belief it and visualise it and then act in that way -
Patience
Overeating, self soothing, perfectionist & avoiding emotions
Over analysing
Wont take action at all
If you are not taking action because you don't think youre going to be perfect then you arent even putting yourself up there to go out there
How is that serving you if you arent allowing yourself
Quell unsettling emotions
You have a problem with yourself but wont do anything about it
Now you have guilt and shame
Now it leaks into other
Alcohol
Path of least resistance - not face it and
1- celebrate wins - its your evidence for when you are doing well
Its showing you that you are capable
Hey look at me making these changes you can do it
Always write down at least 1 win ever single day, you will always find something in there and if you cant… youll start creating the reality of making them