Understanding Limerence: Signs and Effects

Limerence is an intense emotional state characterized by infatuation and obsession with someone. It goes beyond regular attraction, leading to intrusive thoughts, preoccupation, and emotional codependency. Limerence often stems from trauma, particularly in anxious attachment styles. People experiencing limerence idealize the person they are infatuated with, perceiving them as perfect. The brain chemicals involved, such as dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin, create intense highs and lows. However, limerence can be exhausting, emotionally taxing, and can hinder one's ability to make sound decisions or recognize red flags. Differentiating between limerence and genuine attraction or love is important, as genuine love is more balanced, acknowledges positive and negative qualities in a partner, and doesn't depend solely on their reciprocation of feelings.