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#142 Marshall Goldsmith: The Essentials Of Leadership

1h 37min • Jul 12, 2022

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1. Introduction

Marshall Goldsmith and Shane Parrish discuss the importance of leadership and how to become a better leader. They talk about how leaders often go wrong, how to change behavior and perception, and how to make decisions. They also discuss the relationship between intensity and consistency.
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2. Are Leaders Made or Born?

Leadership is working with and through others to achieve objectives. Anyone can be a leader, assuming they have basic qualitys to get along in life. Leaders can deftly increase their effectiveness. However, many leaders have self-limiting beliefs that prevent them from becoming even more effective. These beliefs often come from the leader telling themselves "this is just the way I am" and feeling like they have a fixed identity that cannot be changed.

3. The Number One Problem of All Successful People

One of the challenges of leadership is transitioning from a high-achieving individual to a leader. This can be difficult because leaders often have to learn to quit being right and smart all the time. They also have to learn to make decisions that are not solely based on their own preferences.

One example of this is when two people want to go to different restaurants for dinner. The leader should try to compromise and choose a restaurant that both people will enjoy, rather than arguing and trying to prove that their own choice is the best.

another example is when one person has had a hard day and the other person tries to commiserate. The leader should try to listen and be understanding, rather than trying to one-up the other person's story.

4. How to Get Paid for Results

Marshall Goldsmith speaks about coaching and motivation. He talks about how important it is to pick the right customer when coaching, because if you don't, the coaching process will never work. He also talks about how he once made the mistake of thinking the coaching process was about himself and his own ego, but he learned from it and changed his perspective.

5. What Really Matters in Life?

Goldsmith and Parrish discuss what it takes to have a great life. Parrish argues that, in addition to health, income, and relationships, one needs to have aspirations, ambitions, and activities that are aligned in order to have a great life. Goldsmith agrees and adds that one should never make their value as a human being conditional on the results of their achievements.

6. Do You Love the Process?

Goldsmith and Parrish discuss the importance of having a support group, and how it can help people to be more successful. Goldsmith argues that it is more important than ever to have people to help you, and that having a group of people to talk to can be very beneficial. Parrish agrees, and adds that it can be helpful to have a group of people to talk to where nobody is trying to put you down.

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7. Every Breath Para Time

Marshall Goldsmith and Shane Parrish discuss the importance of community, purpose, and feeling like you are part of something larger than yourself. Goldsmith talks about how we can focus on the process instead of the results. Parrish talks about how every breath is a new beginning and how we should let go of the past.

8. Leaders to Day Are More Effective Than Ever Before

The conversation between Marshall Goldsmith and Shane Parrish covers the topic of the difference between managing and leading. Shane Parrish reflects on an article he wrote for Chief Executive Magazine, noting that while leaders have improved their behaviour overall, the expectations for leaders have increased at a much faster rate. Goldsmith and Parrish discuss how the pandemic has changed the way people give praise and recognition, with Goldsmith suggesting that people make a list of those important to them and reflect on whether anyone on the list deserves recognition.

9. How to Improve Your Communication With People

Marshall Goldsmith and Shane Parrish discuss the nature of communication and how it has changed with the introduction of new technology. They talk about the ways that people can go wrong with communication, and how to correct those mistakes. Goldsmith talks about empathy and how it can be used to understand and connect with people.

10. You Can't Understand Without Agreeing With Someone

Goldsmith and Parrish discuss the importance of understanding others' points of view without necessarily agreeing with them. They also talk about the importance of being present in the moment and not letting past experiences or emotions cloud one's judgement. Finally, they talk about the negative impact of words like "no," "but," and "however" on conversations.

11. Are You Ready for This Great Learning Point From Peter Drucker?

Marshall Goldsmith and Shane Parrish discuss the importance of learning to disagree without being disagreeable. They explain that this is not a hard-wired trait, and that anyone can learn to change their behavior. They also emphasize the importance of making a positive difference in the world, and of understanding that every decision is made by the person who has the power to make it.

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12. The Leader of the Benefit of the Doubt

The conversation between Marshall Goldsmith and Shane Parrish covers the topic of people's environment and how it can create defaults that control people if they don't take charge. They discuss the idea that some people believe that life is just a series of random events, while others believe that people have the power to control their own lives. Parrish talks about his book "Triggers" which explores how different stimuli in our environment can impact our behaviour. In the end, they both agree that it is important for people to be aware of the role their environment plays in their lives and to take control of it if they want to be successful.

13. Six Questions Everyday

The individual evaluates themselves on a scale of one to ten on whether they did their best to set clear goals and make progress towards achieving them. If they rated themselves a zero, it was because their goal was to do nothing but respond to emails all day. The person finds it difficult to stay on track with their goals because things come up that they didn't plan for.

14. Are You Ready?

The person being interviewed defines success as having alignment between one's higher aspirations, what they are trying to achieve, and enjoying the process of life, regardless of outcomes. They advise that the only performance appraisal that matters is the one that the wise, 95-year-old version of themselves would give. They advise the listener to be happy now, to never get so busy chasing what they don't have that they forget the people they love, and to go for their dreams.

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