107: Byron Katie: How to Stop Being Controlled by Your Ego

Byron Katie is a renowned teacher and creator of "The Work," a method of self-inquiry for ending suffering.

In this episode, you're going to learn why believing your thoughts is the root cause of suffering, the four simple questions that can radically change your relationship to pain and conflict, how to deal with feelings of certainty and superiority in activism and health advocacy, why trying to change other people often reveals deeper fears within yourself, and what true personal responsibility looks like even in everyday moments like picking up socks off the floor.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introduction

[03:15] How victim consciousness creates suffering

[04:45] Byron Katie’s moment of ego death

[06:10] Discovering the cause of suffering

[08:00] Moving stressful thoughts onto paper

[10:00] Seeing the ego as a terrified child

[12:00] Who you are without painful thoughts

[14:10] The death of the victim identity

[16:00] How inquiry brings relief in groups

[17:45] Activism, certainty, and superiority

[20:00] Applying inquiry to health and activism

[22:10] Loving others through their own choices

[25:00] Owning decisions without guilt

[27:00] How fear fuels activism

[30:00] Responsibility for your emotional experience

[31:50] Picking up socks and ending resentment

[34:10] Defense as the first act of war

[36:00] Boundaries and selfishness

[39:00] How drama and suffering lose appeal

[42:00] Ego’s survival and waking up

[45:00] Byron Katie’s experience of awakening

[48:00] Freedom from stressful thoughts

[50:00] How inquiry naturally changes your life

[52:00] Living without complaint or resentment

[54:00] Relaxation and the gift of the unknown

Resources Mentioned:

The Work of Byron Katie | Website

At Home Live With Byron Katie | Zoom

Loving What Is by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell | Book or Audiobook

A Thousand Names for Joy by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell | Book or Audiobook

I Need Your Love—Is That True? by Byron Katie and Michael Katz | Book or Audiobook

A Mind at Home with Itself by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell | Book or Audiobook

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