Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy Foreplay Replay - Stonewalling
Nov 10, 2025
Explore the complexities of stonewalling in relationships. Learn how silent treatment and withdrawal can harm connections. Discover the motives behind this behavior, from power struggles to emotional avoidance. The hosts break down how physiological responses can lead to shutting down instead of engaging. They provide practical steps for self-soothing and effective communication strategies. Gain insights on how to navigate these dynamics and reassure your partner after a conflict.
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Stonewalling As Ultimate Withdrawal
- Stonewalling is an ultimate act of distancing that cuts off emotional and sometimes physical engagement.
- It often shows up as monosyllabic answers, silence, or refusal to be present and is deeply painful to partners.
Child Example Of Unintentional Stonewalling
- Dr. Matthews describes his daughter staring into her cereal and not responding when her sister tries to get her attention.
- He uses it to illustrate unintentional stonewalling by children and how powerful silence can be.
Ignoring Feels Worse Than Rejection
- Stonewalling communicates a lack of care and accelerates relationship breakdown.
- Ignoring or neglecting a partner is often more hurtful than direct rejection.
