PsycHacks Episode 549: No one-night stands (how not to find your husband)
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Sep 1, 2025 The podcast dives into the evolving dynamics of dating, challenging the stigma around one-night stands. It argues that initiating a sexual relationship quickly doesn’t preclude long-term commitment. Instead, it suggests that rigid rules about sex can complicate dating further. The conversation encourages women to reassess their strategies and perceptions of value in relationships, shedding light on how short-term encounters can lead to lasting bonds.
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Sex Usually Comes Before Commitment
- Sex typically precedes commitment in modern dating, so early sex doesn't block long-term outcomes.
- The pathway to short-term and long-term relationships is quantitative, not qualitatively different.
Don't Demand A Prior Guarantee
- Avoid demanding a prior guarantee of multiple dates before sex because men won't reasonably promise commitment in advance.
- Don't write “no one-night stands” on your profile because it signals an unrealistic upfront demand.
Many Marriages Beg With One Meeting
- Ask married girlfriends about their early courtship and you'll often hear the relationship began with a one-night stand.
- Many marriages started with an initial sexual encounter that then developed into repeated dates and commitment.
