193. The truth about avoidant attachment ft. Thais Gibson
May 7, 2024
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Expert Thais Gibson breaks down avoidant attachment styles, discussing development, prevalence, and healing. Topics include impact on relationships, societal challenges, and healing strategies for forming secure identities.
Reprogramming core wounds from childhood experiences is essential to heal avoidant attachment styles like dismissive or fearful.
Understanding and meeting emotional and relational needs is key for reshaping attachment patterns and fostering deeper connections with partners.
Deep dives
Healing Avoidant Attachment Styles Through Core Wound Reprogramming
To heal avoidant attachment styles such as dismissive or fearful, individuals can focus on reprogramming core wounds from childhood experiences. By identifying and addressing these core wounds related to trust, abandonment, or criticism, individuals can begin to reshape their attachment patterns.
Meeting Personal Needs and Communicating in Relationships
Understanding and meeting one's unique emotional and relational needs is crucial for healing avoidant attachment styles. By recognizing what each attachment style requires, individuals can learn to communicate these needs effectively to their partners, fostering deeper connections and mutual understanding.
Learning Healthier Boundaries and Nervous System Regulation
Developing healthy boundaries and engaging in nervous system regulation practices such as meditation or breath work can support the healing process. Establishing boundaries helps individuals navigate relationships more effectively, while regulating the nervous system enhances emotional resilience and self-awareness.
Balancing Healing and Codependency in Relationships
The journey of healing avoidant attachment styles can vary depending on individual commitment and codependency patterns. While being in a relationship can provide real-life opportunities for growth and transformation, being single may offer space for focused self-work. Success in healing ultimately hinges on consistent dedication and self-awareness, regardless of relationship status.
Attachment theory is often misunderstood but when we have the correct knowledge and information it can transform how we relate to others. In today's episode we break down one of these styles, the avoidant attachment, along with it's two components: avoidant dismissive and avoidant fearful. We discuss how this style develops, its expression, the difference in prevalence and behaviours between men and women and how we can move forward and heal an avoidant pattern.
We are joined in today's episode by Thais Gibson, the founder of The Personal Development School and expert in attachment theory. Unlock your free trial using this link: www.personaldevelopmentschool.com/freetrial
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