Over It And On With It EP 478: Getting Clarity on Whether to Leave a Relationship or Not with Valentina
In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Valentina, a listener at a crossroads in her relationship and living situation. Valentina shares the challenges of navigating her partner’s sudden decisions and their impact on her sense of self. This episode dives deep into how family-of-origin patterns influence current relationships, and offers profound insights for anyone questioning their life direction.
Christine helps Valentina explore her feelings, confront patterns of compliance and codependency, and move toward clarity and empowerment. Together, they unpack the importance of honoring one’s truth, and voice in relationships and in life.
Consider/Ask Yourself:
- Do you find yourself putting others' needs before your own in relationships?
- Are you afraid to speak your truth, fearing it might lead to conflict or rejection?
- Have you noticed patterns in your relationships that reflect your childhood experiences?
- Are you currently in a situation that feels like a compromise of your authentic self?
The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:
- Valentina recognizes her tendency to prioritize her partner's desires over her own, a pattern rooted in her upbringing.
- Christine highlights the importance of self-honoring choices and boundary-setting.
- Through coaching, Valentina gains clarity on her relationship's dynamics and how they mirror her family history.
- Valentina finds empowerment in understanding that leaving a relationship or staying should align with her soul’s highest good.
How to Get Over It & On With It:
- Reflect on whether your relationships support or suppress your authentic self.
- Notice patterns from your family of origin that might be playing out in your current relationships.
- Prioritize communication and honesty in relationships to foster mutual respect and understanding.
- Seek external support, whether from therapy or coaching, to help navigate big decisions.
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