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Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

Case Study: Why "Leave Me Alone" Really Means "Help Me"

Mar 25, 2025
24:24

Ever feel lost in how to respond when your child gets aggressive during tantrums? You're not alone, and it's definitely a tough spot to be in. This week, we're tackling the challenge of aggressive tantrums and how to navigate them with connection, not punishment. Afra joins me today, struggling when her 6-year-old gets physical with her during tantrums. Together, we'll explore why connection is key, even when it feels counterintuitive, and how to keep everyone safe during those intense moments.


We dive into understanding the root of aggressive tantrums and why they happen, especially when kids say they want to be left alone. We also discuss how our own experiences can shape our reactions and explore healthier ways to respond. I’ll provide strategies for maintaining safety for both you and your child during these episodes. We'll also cover the importance of modeling self-regulation and the long-term benefits it has for our children.


If you're ready to shift your perspective on tantrums and build a stronger connection with your child, this episode offers some compassionate guidance and practical tools. You’re doing great, and there is a better way!


In This Episode

  • How to stay present through the tantrum
  • Prioritizing safety for everyone
  • How to model self-regulation calmly
  • Don’t expect immediate apologies
  • Why you need to be consistent with your limits


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