Jillian on Love I Can't Let Go of My Toxic Ex: A Live Coaching Call with Jillian
Nov 20, 2023
A man struggling to let go of his toxic ex-girlfriend has a live coaching call with Jillian. They discuss the dynamics of their toxic relationship, the impact of the breakup, and the importance of self-appreciation and personal growth.
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Ex Obsession Reflects Self-View
- Jillian reframes the caller's obsession with his ex as a signal about his self-view rather than the ex herself.
- She suggests being stuck on an ex often reflects low self-esteem and unmet identity needs.
Abrupt Breakup With No Closure
- The caller describes an abrupt breakup: his girlfriend of three years ended things over text on his birthday and then cut off all contact.
- He reports eight months of no contact yet remains stuck thinking about her despite being in a new relationship.
Met Ex During Teaching; She Was Vulnerable
- The caller met his ex when he was teaching and she was a TA; she had recent hospitalizations and had just left a five-year relationship.
- Despite her vulnerability, he pursued her and later recognized possible codependency motives.