147. Sam Tielemans - The Marriage Therapist Helping Men Break Free from Porn & Heal Their Relationships

In this insightful episode of the Unhooked Podcast, I'm joined by Sam Tielemans, a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 15 years of experience. Sam shares his expertise in helping men overcome pornography addiction by addressing the deeper emotional pain driving their behavior. We discuss how to identify and heal the real reasons behind one's urges, the importance of understanding the 'first domino', and the three types of urges. Sam also highlights the significance of effective accountability and the ultimate goal of achieving true freedom from porn addiction. If you're tired of struggling with the same patterns and are ready for a real transformation, this conversation is for you. Learn more about Sam's unique approach, his podcast, and the tools needed to build a life of integrity and fulfillment.

🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/intro

Connect with Jeremy:

🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com

📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/

🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz

📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.com

Jeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

03:35 Sam's Journey into Therapy and Pornography Addiction

05:43 The Role of Shame and Perfectionism in Addiction

09:36 The Domino Effect: Identifying the Root Cause

14:48 The Importance of Accountability and Healthy Habits

18:49 Overcoming Limiting Beliefs and Toxic Shame

26:20 Personal Anecdote: Learning About Cars

26:39 Understanding and Identifying Urges

27:54 Framework for Categorizing Urges

31:13 Tools for Habitual Urges

33:47 Addressing Physiological Urges

35:19 The Power of Mindfulness

40:35 Hope and Recovery from Addiction

48:42 Final Thoughts and Resources

Connect with Sam Tielemans

📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samtielemans_mft
🌍 Website: https://healingcouples.org/

🔗 Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/32uM9Y9DxEzyhAYLpPZzbQ?si=6ddd21c6f4a94677

🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!