Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman The Efficiency Trap & The Loneliness Gap
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You've mastered the logistics of life together, but somewhere along the way, you stopped actually living it together.
This week, a listener shares:
"I'm lonely in my own marriage. We've been together 12 years and we're like this well-oiled machine. Kids get to practice, bills are paid, house doesn't fall apart, but that's it. We don't actually talk anymore, just coordinate. Last week I realized we hadn't had a real conversation in probably two months. When I brought it up, he was like, 'what's wrong? We're good. We don't fight.' But I'm dying here. I miss my husband."
In this episode, Damona explores what happens when couples perfect the art of co-managing but lose the skills of co-connecting. You'll hear why functional doesn't have to mean emotionally empty, and how to bridge the gap when one person doesn't even see the problem.
What You'll Hear In This Episode:
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Why becoming a "well-oiled machine" can actually work against your relationship
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How to practice intimacy skills the same way you schedule soccer practice
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The difference between absence of conflict and presence of connection
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Why two months without real conversation signals an emotional drought
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How to get from logistics to feelings without blindsiding your partner
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What "relationship amnesia" looks like and how to recover those lost skills
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Why missing someone who's sitting right next to you hits so differently
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