ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show 805: MAKE YOUR OWN RULES WHEN IT COMES TO SCHEDULING SEX
Apr 30, 2024
Explore the exciting world of scheduling intimacy and making your own rules in marriage. Discover how to rekindle the spark and transform your connection, backed by the 6 Pillars of Intimacy. Alisa and Tony share their personal journey from dysfunction to a thriving intimacy lifestyle. They discuss the importance of feeling desired, examples of creative intimacy routines, and the need for ongoing conversations around expectations. Plus, tips on tracking satisfaction and adjusting routines as life changes.
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Years Of Rejection Changed Their Dynamic
- Alisa shares that for years she rarely initiated and often said no, which caused Tony to feel undesired.
- Their 60 Day Sex Challenge exposed how her pattern of rejection created deep pain for Tony and motivated change.
Rare Overlap Meant 'If We're Home, We're On'
- A paramedic couple had sex whenever they were both home because overlap was rare; their rule simplified decisions.
- They treated co-presence as an automatic green light, removing negotiation and boosting frequency.
Design Rules That Energize You
- Make the intimacy lifestyle your own by designing rules that excite both of you.
- Choose structures that feel fun and not like a chore so you'll stay consistent.
