Journalist David Farrier discusses the impact of church harm and toxicity in NZ megachurches, prompting reflections on accountability and the difficulty of leaving such communities. The host shares personal insights on addressing systemic issues and the importance of empathy and learning within communities.
Addressing toxic power dynamics in megachurches is crucial for transparency and accountability.
Embracing discomfort and advocating for systemic change within institutions is essential for transformative impact.
Deep dives
Reflection on Last Year's Conversations and Taking a Break
The host reflects on the intense and impactful conversations from the previous year, particularly focusing on toxic church systems and megachurch dynamics. Acknowledging the toll these discussions took, the host emphasizes the need for a longer break to reflect and find space after engaging in these profound dialogues. This pause was necessary for personal processing and to navigate the complexities of the topics that deeply resonated with many individuals. The host's return marks a reinvigorated readiness to continue exploring these critical issues.
Unveiling Harmful Practices in Mega-Churches and Addressing Toxic Power Dynamics
The spotlight shifts to the uncovering of harmful practices within mega-churches, specifically highlighting stories of abuse of power and harmful experiences within City Impact Church and Life. Drawing from personal connections with these churches, the host delves into the discomfort of discussing such issues publicly and dismantling taboos surrounding these topics. Emphasizing the necessity to address toxic power dynamics and abusive practices within religious institutions, the host advocates for transparency and accountability.
Challenging Institutions and Embracing Discomfort for Change
The conversation delves into the imperative of challenging toxic systems and institutions that perpetuate harm, urging listeners to confront discomfort for transformative change. The host explores the resistance to acknowledging and rectifying damaging practices within these spaces, calling for a shift towards empathy, genuine apology, and willingness to evolve. Emphasizing the importance of tolerating discomfort and embracing accountability, the narrative advocates for dismantling toxic systems that perpetuate abuse.
Personal Reflections and Responsibility in Building Healthier Systems
The episode concludes with a poignant reflection on personal complicity in perpetuating harmful systems, highlighting the responsibility individuals hold in constructing healthier and empathetic communities. Acknowledging past actions within church structures and advocating for systemic change, the host underscores the necessity of humility, empathy, and discomfort tolerance. The focus extends beyond individual accountability to emphasize collective reflection on building systems that prioritize care, empathy, and character strength for transformative impact.
Episode 75: In the first episode of 2023, I (Michael) spend some time reflecting on the stories of the past year but in particular on the most recently published article by journalist David Farrier about church harm and toxicity in more NZ megachurches - a story that prominently features the church in which I spent around 13 years of my life - both as a participant, and also on staff for around 8 years. In this episode I unpack as honestly as I can the feelings that come up in this whole conversation, about what it feels like to speak publicly about a community that I once helped to build, about the long-term relational impact, and about why I think we need to hold people and communities/systems to account - especially when they are closer to us. All of this feeds into some reflections on why it continues to be so muddled and conflicted for so many people, why it's so hard for members to leave and/or move on, and why it's the inability to hear, empathise, listen and learn that become the most problematic features of these organisations.