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ERP 366: How To Assess The Health Of Your Connection — An Interview With Dr. René Vázquez del Valle

Apr 4, 2023

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In today's fast-paced world, we often hear about the importance of maintaining a healthy relationship, but how do we actually assess the health of our connection?

In this episode, Dr. Réne Vázquez del Valle, a psychotherapist, and author of "Head Heart Crotch Connections: How Not to Fail in Search of Your Perfect" shares his simple yet profound formula for evaluating the head, heart, and sexual connection in our relationships and provides tips for identifying areas of weakness and working on them.

Dr. Vázquez del Valle breaks down his technique and offers a free connection scale on his website, allowing individuals to assess their level of connection and identify areas that need improvement.

Join us in this insightful conversation as we explore the importance of connection and how to maintain its health.

Dr. René G. Vázquez del Valle, DSW, received his MSW at Columbia University and his Doctorate at the CUNY Graduate School. He was an Adjunct Professor at Long Island University; guest speaker at both the NYU School of Medicine, Dept. of Psychiatry and CUNY Law School. He retired from the NYS Office of Mental Health after 30 years of clinical practice. He currently resides in NYC and East Hampton, NY, and works as a private practice therapist.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

3:44 How to assess success or failure in a relationship and the different factors that contribute to it.

13:16 The importance of descriptive language and mutual connection in relationships.

17:26 The importance of different types of connections in a relationship.

23:40 Understanding your partner’s needs: Enhancing connection in relationships through emotional, sexual, and intellectual fulfillment

28:52 Analyzing the fight-or-flight response to improve connection in relationships.

31:07 Understanding attachment style and types of connections.

33:25 Defense mechanisms and their impact on an individual's ability to connect with others

39:56 Understanding marianismo and the effects of shame on connection and wellbeing.

44:00 Dr. René Vázquez del Valle talks about his book and explains how the simple formula of assessing head, heart, and crotch connections can have profound effects on people's lives.

Mentioned

Head, Heart, Crotch Connections: How Not to Fail In Search of Your Perfect Union (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Connection Rating Scale

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

Connect with Dr. René Vázquez del Valle

Websites: renev.authorchannel.co

Facebook: facebook.com/reneleo2

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/rené-vázquez-del-valle-dsw-lcsw-r-71484563

Instagram: instagram.com/rene_vdelv

Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins

Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship