An investigation into loaded questions and their underlying meanings. Topics include questions asked on first dates to gauge compatibility, the insensitivity of quizzing someone's memory with dementia, and the hidden pressures of school. The podcast explores personal anecdotes and societal complexities surrounding these questions.
The question of 'does your mom recognize you?' reveals society's understanding and treatment of people with dementia.
Innocuous questions can often serve as proxies for deeper issues, such as asking about a basketball score to assess a student's potential for attending elite schools.
Deep dives
The Trap of Inquiring about Recognition
People often ask if a person with dementia recognizes their loved ones, but the author argues that the real question should be whether we recognize and care about the person with dementia.
The Pressure Behind Standardized Test Questions
The innocuous math question about scoring points in a basketball game is actually a proxy for asking if a student is good enough to attend elite schools and reap the advantages that come with it.
The Hidden Meaning Behind Personal Questions
The question of 'does your mom recognize you?' carries a deeper meaning. It is a reflection on our society's understanding and treatment of people with dementia, and the importance of recognizing and caring for them.
Navigating Sensitive Questions with Students
Tutors of students preparing for exams face the dilemma of whether to provide easy answers or encourage critical thinking. This is particularly evident when discussing sensitive topics like racism in literature.
Prologue: Host Ira Glass talks with producer Tobin Low about the question he got asked after he and his husband moved in together, and what he thinks people were really asking. (4 minutes)
Act One: “What do you think about Beyoncé?” and other questions raised by people on first dates. (12 minutes)
Act Two: When a common, seemingly innocuous question goes wildly off the rails. (13 minutes)
Act Three: Why are people asking me if my mother recognizes me, when it’s totally beside the point? (14 minutes)
Act Four: Schools ask their students the strangest essay questions sometimes. The experience of tutoring anxious teenagers through how to answer them requires a balladier, singing their lived experience to a crowd as though it were the Middle Ages. (10 minutes)