The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} REPLAY: Boundaries with Connection Part 1 of 3: Boundaries You can Control
Jan 5, 2026
Delve into the vital distinctions between rules and boundaries in parenting. Discover how regulation and connection foster compassionate limits rather than permissiveness. Explore practical examples, like curfews and device restrictions, to illustrate these concepts. Learn how to respond effectively when boundaries are violated, emphasizing safety and connection. Understand the importance of personal control over boundaries and how to set kids up for success, even during challenging moments of escalation.
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Felt Safety Is Foundational
- Felt safety is the foundation for changing baffling behaviors in kids with vulnerable nervous systems.
- A nervous system that feels safe shifts into connection mode, which allows desired behaviors to emerge.
Connection Leads To Stronger Boundaries
- Focusing on regulation and connection can feel like permissive parenting but actually supports clearer boundaries.
- Parenting through a nervous-system lens tends to produce stronger, more effective boundaries, not fewer.
Define Rules Versus Boundaries
- Distinguish rules from boundaries: rules state expectations and boundaries state what you will do about violations.
- Frame family rules clearly so consequences you control align with safety and agreement.
