Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 2865: [Part 1] How to Get off the Emotional Roller Coaster and Date from a Centered Place by Melissa Josue of Melissa the Love Coach
Jan 11, 2026
Melissa Josue, known as Melissa the Love Coach, is a dating and relationship expert who guides individuals towards emotional clarity. In this discussion, she tackles the emotional roller coaster of modern dating, emphasizing how attachment to outcomes can lead to anxiety. Melissa shares personal stories and highlights the importance of healthy detachment, differentiating it from indifference. By grounding oneself, she argues, one can foster genuine connections and navigate relationships from a more centered place.
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Emotional Roller Coaster Explained
- Dating often feels like an emotional roller coaster of highs and crushing lows.
- Attachment to outcomes fuels anxiety and constant mood swings in relationships.
Four Years On The Roller Coaster
- Melissa Josue recounts a four-year relationship with a separated, emotionally withdrawn man.
- She describes being overjoyed when connected and crushed when he pulled away, demonstrating prolonged attachment.
Attachment Is A Two-Phase Ride
- Attachment means riding between the thrill of having something and the fear of losing it.
- That swing creates vulnerability and frequent emotional ups and downs.
