Stoicism: Philosophy as a Way of Life Podcast The Rescuer Trap: Broicism Just Might Work (Until it Doesn't)
Dec 10, 2025
Join Kasey and Scott as they explore the 'Rescuer Trap' mindset and its link to perfectionism. They discuss how rescuing behavior often leads to emotional burnout and the struggle to enjoy achievements. The duo highlights the importance of good-enough parenting, modeling imperfection, and clarifying values to manage perfectionist tendencies. Stoic techniques like premeditatio malorum help tackle anxiety and encourage self-compassion. Discover how stepping back in relationships can foster growth and lead to healthier connections.
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Perfectionism Masks Insecure Excellence
- Perfectionism often hides as excellence and pride but functions as a loss of temperance.
- Kasey Pierce and Dr. Scott Waltman note perfectionism rewards achievement yet fuels insecurity and is unsustainable.
Injury Triggered Maternal Perfectionism
- Kasey describes her herniated disc when her son was four months old and how it triggered perfectionist guilt.
- She recounts giving her son a tablet during pain and judging herself for not being the 'perfect mom.'
Imagine Imperfection To Reduce Fear
- Use premeditatio malorum (imagined exposure) to test fears about not being perfect and see likely outcomes.
- Reframe models: imperfect role models teach better than impossible perfection, so aim for 'good enough.'
