10 Lessons From 10 Years of Marriage: The Highs, Lows, and What No One Prepares You For: Episode 413

This week marks our 10-year wedding anniversary and if we’re being honest, the months leading up to it weren’t easy. Research even shows that around the 10-year mark, couples hit peak dissatisfaction.

But here’s the truth: challenges don’t mean your marriage is broken. They’re invitations to grow, reconnect, and come back stronger.

In this episode, we’re opening up about the 10 most powerful lessons from our 10 years together — the highs, the lows, the laughter, and the lessons that have shaped us as individuals, as partners, and as parents.

Whether you’ve been together 2 years, 20, or 50, these lessons will give you perspective, encouragement, and practical tools to stay on the same team in every season. Don’t miss this one—it might change the way you see your marriage.

 

Relationship Resources:

In honor of our 10-year anniversary, we’re keeping The Best of Us 30-Day Couples Challenge open for just a few more days! This special edition is designed to reignite emotional and physical intimacy, spark joy, and bring out the BEST in each other again.

Join here: mycoupleschallenge.com/best

Or explore all of our tools — from upcoming workshops to guides — at meetthefreemans.com/links

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Episode Timestamps of What We Discuss:

0:00 – Why 10 years can be a breaking point for couples

3:20 – Lesson 1: Keep updating your shared vision

9:17 – Lesson 2: Connection is more than just being around each other

15:52 – Lesson 3: Differences can make you a stronger team

25:14 – Lesson 4: Becoming parents forces you to reconstruct your marriage

32:09 – Lesson 5: How you show up daily becomes how your marriage feels

39:37 – Lesson 6: Be more committed to repair than being right (or hurt)

47:49 – Lesson 7: Most arguments aren’t about the surface-level issue

53:03 – Lesson 8: Don’t shift from biggest supporters to biggest critics

59:59 – Lesson 9: The same challenges repeat until you learn the lesson

1:08:48 – Lesson 10: Sometimes you just need to have fun and switch the energy

1:12:43 – Final reflections after 10 years