Know Thyself E168 - Alua Arthur: The Conversation About Death That Will Change How You Live
Oct 21, 2025
Alua Arthur, a death doula, attorney, and spiritual guide, discusses the profound connection between mortality and how we live. She reveals common regrets of the dying, emphasizing authenticity and meaningful relationships. Alua shares practices for embracing death to clarify what's essential in life. Explore how grief can teach us about our values and the importance of preparing conversations about death with loved ones. With her unique insights, Alua inspires listeners to celebrate life while confronting what truly matters.
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What A Death Doula Does
- A death doula provides non-medical emotional, spiritual, and practical support for anyone aware of their mortality.
- Support includes end-of-life planning, death meditations, and helping healthy people integrate mortality into daily life.
Daily Death Awareness
- Alua thinks about death multiple times daily, sometimes triggered by small events like a knife slip.
- These intrusive thoughts prompt her to evaluate whether her life feels sufficient and make necessary changes.
Bus Ride That Changed Her Path
- Alua left legal aid after depression and a transformative bus conversation with a woman who had uterine cancer.
- That encounter and later caring for her brother-in-law propelled her to become a death doula.
