Life Kit Dear LK: My group chat is toxic
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Jul 6, 2023 
Join John Paul Bramer, a writer and illustrator behind the cherished queer advice column Hola Papi, as he tackles the complexities of toxic group chats. He shares insights on the delicate balance between supporting friends and enabling harmful behavior. The discussion dives into accountability among friends, the emotional challenges of addressing toxic dynamics, and the necessity of self-preservation. Bramer even introduces the '72% rule' for knowing when to speak up, turning toxic chatter into a space for honesty and resilience.
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Group Chat Dynamics
- Group chats develop their own personalities and norms, independent of individual members' traits.
- A toxic group chat dynamic can persist even if you enjoy members individually.
Supporting vs. Enabling
- Offer support to friends, but recognize when it becomes enabling bad behavior.
- Speak up if a friend's actions are harmful, even in a supportive group chat.
Leaving a Group Chat
- Assess if a group chat aligns with your values and needs; don't force it.
- Prioritize individual well-being over maintaining a draining group dynamic.