What it's like to find your birth parent | Am I Normal? with Mona Chalabi
Dec 25, 2023
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In this episode of 'Am I Normal?' with Mona Chalabi, guest host Saleem Reshamwala meets Amanda, a Dominican woman adopted by a white couple. Amanda shares her adoption journey, from feeling different to finding her birth mother in Italy. The chapter ends with an emotional reunion in Rome.
Adoption is more common than many people realize, but adoptees may not necessarily identify as such, resulting in society underestimating their numbers.
Establishing a connection between adoptees and their biological parents can benefit all parties involved, allowing adoptees to develop a stronger sense of belonging and understand their own identity.
Deep dives
The Common Experience of Adoption
Adoption is more common than many people realize, with approximately 2% of children under 18 in the US being adopted. However, many adoptees may not necessarily identify as such, as they simply see their adoptive parents as their parents. Society often underestimates the number of adoptees due to this lack of identity and recognition. It is important to acknowledge and share the stories of adoptees to foster a deeper understanding of their experiences and the impact on their sense of belonging and identity.
The Benefits of Connection
Research from the Children's Bureau suggests that establishing a connection between adoptees and their biological parents can be beneficial for all parties involved - the children, birth parents, and adoptive parents. This connection allows adult adoptees to develop a stronger sense of belonging and a deeper understanding of their own identity. By sharing stories and experiences, adoptees can explore the different aspects of their background and gain insights into their personal history.
A Personal Journey of Reconnection
The podcast episode follows the personal journey of Amanda Rae Scazafava, an adoptee who reconnects with her birth mother, Josefina, after years of searching. Amanda's search takes her from Connecticut to Italy, where she discovers that her birth mother had immigrated there. The meeting between Amanda and Josefina is emotional and impactful, leading to a profound sense of acceptance and self-assurance for Amanda. Through this journey, Amanda learns more about her culture, finds her place in the world, and develops a deeper understanding of herself.
In Britain, one-fourth of people who were adopted make contact with their birth parents before they turn 18. In this episode of Am I Normal? with Mona Chalabi, another podcast from the TED Audio Collective, guest host Saleem Reshamwala meets Amanda, a Dominican woman who was adopted by a white couple in Connecticut. Amanda always knew she was adopted, and was curious about her birth parents. After a few years of dead ends, she finally finds her biological mother ... in the last place she expected. You can listen to more Am I Normal? with Mona Chalabi wherever you get your podcasts.