Coaching Real Leaders How Do I Lead When I Don’t Feel Like I Belong at the Table?
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Oct 20, 2025 The conversation centers on a leader yearning for growth while grappling with feelings of inadequacy in senior meetings. Insights include how self-perception clashes with others' views, and strategies to embrace contributions despite insecurity. They explore overcoming perfectionism, reframing value away from execution, and adopting new beliefs around belonging. With practical tips to test hypotheses in real meetings, the host encourages proactive participation and the acceptance of occasional insecurity as a part of growth.
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Free‑Form Meetings Demand New Skills
- John realizes free‑form senior meetings expose him to a different skill set than prepared presentations.
- His habit of listening first and second‑guessing prevents timely contributions and undermines perceived leadership potential.
Get Specific Feedback Immediately After Meetings
- Ask specific colleagues to observe and give you targeted feedback after a meeting.
- Phrase requests narrowly (e.g., "watch my participation and tell me when I interrupt or stay silent") to get useful input.
Beliefs Shape Behavior In Meetings
- John's inner questions turn assertions into doubts in high‑stakes rooms.
- In his best meetings he holds beliefs like "I belong here" as facts, which changes his behavior.
