Sex for Saints

Episode 380 - Learning to Sit with Disappointment

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Aug 1, 2025
Disappointment might be the secret ingredient to enhancing intimacy in relationships. The discussion reveals how avoiding disappointment can silently erode connections. By confronting this tough emotion, couples can improve their communication and sex life. Listeners learn practical strategies for navigating unmet expectations and embracing emotional vulnerability. This conversation uncovers the surprising power of processing disappointment to foster deeper intimacy and fulfillment.
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ANECDOTE

The 'Not Tonight' Moment

  • Amanda describes a common scene: hoping for sex, initiating, and hearing "I'm just too tired."
  • That instant heaviness is the sting of disappointment many people learn to avoid.
INSIGHT

Disappointment Is Information

  • Disappointment happens when hope doesn't meet reality and is informational, not catastrophic.
  • Amanda Lauder reframes disappointment as useful data about unmet expectations and longing.
INSIGHT

Disappointment Proves You Care

  • Disappointment only appears where love, desire, or longing were present, proving your heart is alive.
  • Avoiding disappointment stems from being taught hard feelings are unsafe or dramatic.
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