

Episode 540: Spilling the tea (why men will walk away)
Aug 1, 2025
A new dating app claims to enhance safety for women but faces backlash for potentially harming the dating scene. Publicly shaming men identified as problematic could escalate aggression rather than promote constructive dialogue. The app's anonymous reviews raise safety concerns, possibly scaring away good men and leaving only the desperate in the dating pool. The conversation challenges the effectiveness of such platforms in modern romance and questions their impact on genuine connections.
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Tea App's Flawed Safety Logic
- The Tea app allows anonymous, uncorroborated negative reviews of men, which can unfairly damage reputations.
- Public shaming doesn't make dating safer; it may provoke dangerous men instead of protecting women.
Good Men Walking Away
- The app creates fear among decent men of being labeled inappropriate, creepy, or harassing.
- This fear discourages good men from dating, leaving only desperate or bad actors active in the dating pool.
Unbalanced Review Impact
- Negative reviews on the app can linger indefinitely and overshadow positive ones.
- A man cannot realistically have only positive reviews, making the app inherently biased against men.