Ask Uncut - Faking Your Age, A Partner Who Refuses to Watch & An Ex Who Won't Go Away
May 29, 2024
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The hosts discuss faking ages on dating apps and debate whether to overlook the deceit or move on. They also delve into the discomfort of a partner's ex constantly reaching out, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries. Additionally, they touch on advocating for legal reform in domestic violence cases.
Honesty in age on dating apps is crucial for building trust and avoiding misunderstandings.
Open communication with current partners about discomfort from interactions with ex-partners is necessary for healthy relationships.
Deep dives
Partner's Reaction to Watching Birth
It is common for partners to have different reactions to childbirth. While some may feel uncomfortable watching the birth, others may handle it differently in the actual moment. Partners can still offer support in different ways, even if they choose not to be in the immediate vicinity of the birth.
Partner Contact with Ex-Partner
Maintaining contact with an ex-partner, especially in the context of ongoing catch-ups and interactions with family, can trigger feelings of unease in current relationships. It is essential to communicate openly with your partner regarding the discomfort and ensure that the situation is addressed respectfully.
Men's Response to Birth
Men's reactions to witnessing childbirth can vary. While some may feel uncertain or uncomfortable at first, their response may change once they are in the actual situation. It is essential to discuss feelings and concerns openly to understand each other's perspectives.
Legislation Loophole Regarding Prison Sentencing
The episode delves into a critical issue regarding a loophole in Victoria's legislation where prisoners can request reduced sentencing for days prisons do not operate properly, such as during COVID. Advocates are pushing for reforms to address the exploitation of this loophole.
Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and dark dilemmas!
Britt is particularly chirpy today because her 5 month unintentional celibacy is over! Ben is in town! Laura doesn't have the time for p*rn but she does have the time for an instagram trend that involves you all breathing out all the way and screaming... This isn't our most intellectual episode!
Vibes for the week: Britt - Apples Never Fall on Binge Keeshia - "Hale" on Spotify Hale Breathwork. Laura - We the wild Neem Oil Spray
Then we get into your questions:
PUTTING A FAKE AGE ON DATING APPS I matched with a guy on a dating app and we met up for lunch yesterday. I made a comment about how he and I were of a similar age and generation (me being 38 and him 40) to which he said, “Oh, no, I’m actually 45.” This is not the first, second or third time this has happened. I have had this happen innumerable times and there is always the excuse that, “the app wouldn’t let me change it.” To which my thought is, “well if you were honest in the first place, you wouldn’t need to change anything.” Questions: 1. Do women put an incorrect age in the dating apps too? My experience is with dating men and I am curious about whether this is something everyone does or not. 2. He was otherwise lovely so is it better to just brush it aside as being a mistake and go on another date? Or do I take this as a sign of being insincere and an amber flag and move on to another match?
HIS EX KEEPS REACHING OUT TO MY PARTNER AND HIS FAMILY My partner of 2 years (he is wonderful, definitely my penguin, we own a house together, but currently doing long distance due to work) has let me know that his ex (they were together for 8 years and separated amicably) has been in contact with him (sending lots of one way messages asking to catch up which he hasn’t replied to) but she has also been in contact with his family and grandparents and has organised to meet up with them in the next few weeks 😬 and has also asked to see him and his mum. He told me straight away and has said that it’s up to me whether he goes to see her or not. I trust him completely so it’s not like I am concerned anything will happen between them, but the situation has made me feel really uneasy! I know that 8 years is a long time to be in a relationship, and that you can get pretty close with family, but to continue be in contact after 2+ years of being separated and continue to organise catch ups does make me feel unsure about the situation, and also where I stand with his family (we have always gotten along swimmingly). For context I live in a different state to him and his family. What should I do? I feel like I really can’t be the one to say that she shouldn’t be in contact with him/family anymore because I’ll be the “bad guy”, and am I just being insecure about the fact that the ex and my partner's family have a close relationship!
PARTNER DOESN'T WANT TO WATCH ME GIVE BIRTH The most recent podcast about pregnancy/ childbirth got my boyfriend and I talking about when we are in the situation. He just told me that he doesn’t know if he will be able to watch! Is that a normal reaction for blokes? I’m so offended he wouldn’t want to watch. I also think that when he is actually in the situation it’ll be different. Thoughts??