Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled A Secret to Stop the Hitting and Hurting When All Else Fails
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Oct 7, 2025 Aggression in young children often reveals deeper emotional struggles. Parents learn to recognize these phases as temporary, emphasizing empathy over punishment. Janet discusses creating a sense of safety and calm for kids, highlighting practical steps for managing sibling conflicts, especially in households with newborns. Tips include joint activities and providing safe spaces for younger siblings. She encourages parents to act with understanding and forgiveness, fostering trust and connection through these challenging times.
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Aggression Means Feeling Unsafe
- Children lash out because they feel out of control and unsafe, not because they are bad.
- Providing a sense of safety is the single key to easing aggressive behavior.
Be The Calm Co-Regulator
- Accept the child's current state while maintaining limits; be the co-regulator.
- Exude calm safety so the child can move through the phase without shame.
Suppressing Beats Healing In Harsh Homes
- Children often suppress difficult feelings when caregivers punish harshly, which harms them long-term.
- A healthier passage lets them move through feelings while feeling supported and closer to parents.
