Struggling with parenting challenges? Tune in to hear real parents share their experiences and get valuable insights from a coaching call. Explore topics like setting limits, balancing needs, handling judgment, fostering connections, and understanding children's emotions. Find support, empathy, and practical advice in this engaging episode.
Balancing attention between children, addressing emotional wounds, and strategies for separation anxiety.
Understanding ADHD kids' needs for routine, reminders, and autonomy to minimize annoyance.
Making tooth brushing fun, allowing choices, and creating a positive environment for children's autonomy.
Deep dives
Case Study of Evening Struggles: Baby Wearing and Deep Feelings
Exploring Jen's struggles with balancing attention between baby and older child, uncovering deep emotional wounds from childhood, and considering strategies to address separation anxiety and needs for connection.
ADHD Routine Challenges and Autonomy Needs
Rachel discusses the challenge of ADHD kids needing more reminders for tasks and explores ways to keep them on routines without annoyance, highlighting the importance of understanding their feelings and needs for autonomy.
Strategies for Tooth Brushing Autonomy and Fun
Delving into Rachel's concern about children finding tooth brushing boring, suggestions are made to meet the need for fun and autonomy by allowing them choices in time, music, and creating an enjoyable atmosphere.
Encouraging Autonomy and Connection in Evening Routines
Addressing Rachel's desire to balance tasks with autonomy for her children, emphasizing the importance of understanding children's needs, autonomy, and creating a positive and connected environment without forcing compliance.
Recognizing Autonomy and Individuality in Children
Parents are advised not to ask their children to mask their true identities to fit societal norms, especially if neurodivergence is involved. Emphasis is placed on gently suggesting to children ways to interact that may be more socially acceptable, without forcing immediate change. The importance of respecting a child's autonomy and individuality is highlighted, allowing them to express themselves authentically in different environments.
Navigating Parental Judgment and Staying True to Values
Parents are encouraged to stay connected to their family values and remain steadfast in their parenting approach, even in the face of external judgment. The significance of understanding personal values to maintain confidence in parenting decisions is underscored. By acknowledging internal values and focusing on meeting their child's needs while staying true to their beliefs, parents can cultivate resilience against external criticisms and confidently navigate their parenting journey.
It can be really hard to see what's happening in our struggles with our children. They refuse to go to bed at bedtime; we're at home alone all day with a baby who doesn't like being put down, and our older child who is now being aggressive, and there's no time for us to even take a shower, and maybe it seems like everyone around us is judging our parenting choices.
In this very different episode you're going to hear from parents who are in exactly these kinds of situations, and who joined me for a group coaching call to talk through them. We worked through a role play with one parent, Meagan, and then we saw how the same process could apply to lots of other different kinds of situations.
Several of the parents who joined the call were kind enough to record messages after the call letting me know how the experience was for them, and with their permission I've included these recordings in the episode as well.
So if you're struggling to find your groove as a parent; if you're struggling to find yourself, this episode will help.
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01:26 Introducing today’s topic
02:11 Jen talks about hosting a group coaching call for Your Parenting Mojo Facebook group members, challenging misconceptions about coaching benefits.
03:26 Participants, like Parent Kendra, express feeling connected with others and finding solace in normalizing the challenges of parenting, even in a virtual setting.
07:38 Participants shared their parenting challenges, including ADHD, tantrums, social expectations, and bedtime struggles, seeking guidance and support during the coaching call.
14:28 The conversation explores Parent Meagan's bedtime struggles with her daughter Ava, highlighting Meagan's stress and Ava's desire for autonomy and connection. Strategies to address both needs are discussed.
36:30 The conversation explores Jen's struggle balancing caregiving, household tasks, and family time. It touches on her discomfort with her baby's crying, rooted in her own childhood experiences.
46:58 The conversation discusses supporting children with neurodivergent traits, emphasizing the challenges of maintaining routines and social interactions.
56:37 Parent Kendra shares her challenge navigating societal expectations in parenting across different cultures.
01:09:05 Whitney shares how she applied the concept of understanding her son's perspective and needs during bedtime struggles. This shift in perspective helped her empathize more with her son's feelings and frustrations.
01:15:12 Invitation to the Setting Loving (and Effective!) Limits workshop
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