Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Esther Calling - No Longer Daddy's Little Girl
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Mar 3, 2025 A woman grapples with the pain of being estranged from her father for two years while trying to navigate her own identity and future family plans. The conversation dives deep into the emotional complexities of familial estrangement, highlighting the influence of parental relationships on personal growth. Financial dynamics and the weight of past conflicts surface, revealing how childhood experiences shape adult perspectives. This heartfelt discussion encourages self-discovery and the importance of chosen family in the healing journey.
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The Loan and Estrangement
- The caller's father, after a divorce, was largely absent during her childhood but later helped fund her education.
- She took out a large loan without telling him, leading to his anger and estrangement.
Betrayal and Use
- Esther Perel suggests the father's anger stems from feeling used and unappreciated, interpreting the hidden loan as a betrayal.
- The caller's independent financial decision challenged their close relationship.
History of Cutoffs
- The caller's father has a history of cutting people off, showing an all-or-nothing approach to relationships.
- This pattern extends to family, business partners, and friends, suggesting a rigid relational style.