Tom and Giovanna Fletcher discuss the challenges of balancing family time and thriving creative careers, the importance of self-awareness and openly talking about mental health in maintaining healthy relationships, the concept of alphabet dating and the significance of laughter, their experience of writing collaboratively and their upcoming projects.
No relationship is perfect, and it's important to acknowledge the ups and downs in a long-term relationship, understanding that external factors can impact the way partners interact with each other.
Balancing parenting and busy schedules requires open communication, reliance on each other, and the flexibility to adapt to the constant juggling of work commitments and parenting responsibilities.
Deep dives
Navigating ups and downs in a long-term relationship
In this podcast episode, Tom and Jevanna Fletcher discuss the importance of understanding that there will be ups and downs in a long-term relationship. They emphasize that no one's relationship is perfect, and it's crucial to be aware that external factors like children or work stress can affect the way partners interact with each other. They also mention the concept of "couple goals" and express skepticism towards it. Instead, they emphasize the importance of being aware of the phases a relationship goes through and the need for open communication and understanding.
Managing parenting and busy schedules
Tom and Jevanna Fletcher talk about the challenges of balancing parenting and their busy schedules. They discuss their disorganized approach to planning and the last-minute nature of their lives. They highlight the importance of having a support team and being able to rely on each other to navigate their different work commitments and parenting responsibilities. They also mention the constant juggling of schedules and the need for flexibility and adaptability in managing their family dynamics.
Creativity, productivity, and imposter syndrome
Tom and Jevanna Fletcher discuss their experiences with creativity, productivity, and imposter syndrome. They talk about the pressure to be productive and the challenges of finding time for creative projects, such as writing books and songs. They both express self-doubt and imposter syndrome, feeling like they don't know what they're doing and fearing being found out. Despite their successes, they shed light on the importance of pushing through self-doubt and embracing the creative process, emphasizing that everyone is just trying their best and making things up as they go along.
Parenting and the importance of self-awareness
Jevanna Fletcher shares insights about parenting from her popular podcast, Happy Mum Happy Baby. She highlights the importance of self-awareness as a parent and knowing when one is being unreasonable or taking out frustrations on their partner. Jevanna emphasizes that everyone is figuring it out as they go, and there's no right or wrong way to parent. She encourages parents to trust their instincts and rely on their own judgment rather than seeking validation or comparing themselves to other parents.
How many times have you looked at a couple and labelled them ‘goals’? Couple goals is a phrase Tom and Giovanna Fletcher are keen to steer clear of, because they acknowledge all relationships go through their highs and lows, and that’s ok.
In this chat with Fearne, live from the Happy Place Festival in Chiswick, Tom and Gi explain how they manage family time alongside thriving creative careers, as well as why it’s so important to be aware of your own difficult behaviours in a relationship. Plus Fearne reveals how Tom played a big part in helping her speak about her own mental health.