1930: [Part 1] 10 Ways to Screw Up an Apology by Keith Wilson on Sincerity and Owning Up to Your Mistakes
Oct 16, 2023
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Keith Wilson, a licensed mental health counselor, discusses 10 ways to screw up an apology. He emphasizes the importance of acknowledging wrongdoing, being specific, showing empathy, and focusing on making amends. Genuine apologies and considering the impact of our actions on others are also highlighted.
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Acknowledge the harm caused without justifications and rationalizations.
Be specific and provide concrete details of the actions and their effects.
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Apologizing without confessing or admitting wrongdoing
One of the common mistakes in apologies is failing to confess or admit wrongdoing. People often say 'I'm sorry' without acknowledging the harm they caused or explaining what they will do to make it right. However, offering justifications and rationalizations instead of a genuine confession undermines the apology. It is important to avoid explaining why you did the hurtful action and focus on taking responsibility for your part in the problem.
Being vague in your apology
Another mistake made in apologies is being vague. Simply saying 'I'm sorry I hurt you' is insufficient. To make a meaningful impact on the relationship, it is crucial to be specific and list the exact actions and their effects. Providing concrete details demonstrates that you have put effort into understanding the consequences of your behavior. Vagueness can lead to confusion and undermine the sincerity of the apology.
Keith Wilson lists 10 ways that you can screw up an apology, and how not to. This is part 1 of 2.
Episode 1930: [Part 1] 10 Ways to Screw Up an Apology by Keith Wilson on Sincerity and Owning Up to Your Mistakes
Keith Wilson is a licensed mental health counselor and certified alcohol and substance abuse counselor in New York State, with more than 30 years experience. Keith has done a lot of writing about ways to improve your relationships and become the person you would like to be. His newest book is The Road to Reconciliation: A Comprehensive Guide to Peace When Relationships Go Bad.