S21E2: The Compatibility Myth w/ Eli Finkel

How do you choose a partner that's a good match for you? We're joined with Eli Finkel, social psychologist and the Director of the Relationship & Motivation Lab at Northwestern University to debunk what matters and what doesn't when it comes to compatibility in relationships. We're discussing why initial shared interests and similar personalities might not be the strongest predictors of long-term satisfaction, the importance of the Michelangelo Effect, and how compatibility can be built even in the early stages of dating.

Learn more about Eli Finkel and check out his podcast 'Love Factually" with Paul Eastwick and his book 'The All Or Nothing Marriage": https://elifinkel.com/

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