Nick Pollard - The Real Cost Of People-Pleasing

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Apr 7, 2025

Nick Pollard, known as The People Displeaser, is a world-renowned coach and speaker focusing on addiction and people-pleasing. He dives into the emotional toll of prioritizing others' needs and the psychological roots of people-pleasing, especially among men. Nick emphasizes the importance of self-worth, setting boundaries, and the courage to embrace rejection. He discusses modern masculinity's pressures and encourages listeners to break free from unhealthy patterns and pursue genuine desires for personal growth.

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The Cost of People-Pleasing

People-pleasing leads to resentment and an existential crisis.
It's driven by a need for validation and a fear of abandonment.

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Roots of People-Pleasing

People-pleasing stems from absent fathers or overbearing mothers.
This dynamic distorts a child's sense of validation and belonging.

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Selfishness in Disguise

People-pleasing is selfish, disguised as kindness.
It creates transactional relationships built on unmet needs.

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Talking points: relationships, masculinity, mindset, nice guy syndrome

A bunch of you have reached out requesting an interview with Nick, aka The People Displeaser, and I'm happy to say we finally got the chance to talk. Nick's practical, no-nonsense frame is a breath of fresh air. If you're looking for ways to combat your own people-pleasing tendencies—and some really good reasons why you should—this is the episode for you.

(00:00:00) - Is people-pleasing really that bad, and what creates one

(00:08:39) - How “needs” turned into a form of manipulation, and the nuance of privilege

(00:14:15) - Does people-pleasing show up differently in men and women, and what the true cost is

(00:24:59) - Where does a man start dealing with people-pleasing

(00:38:31) - The importance of rejection, and do women play a role?

(00:48:55) - Nick’s hard truths for introverts

(00:54:22) - What you’re going to face when start putting yourself first

Nick Pollard, aka The People Displeaser, is a world-renowned coach and speaker who specializes in addiction, codependent behavior, and people-pleasing. Overcoming his own struggles—a deeply difficult childhood, his own addictive tendencies, and more—he now works tirelessly to support others wanting to break free. With tens of millions views on his social media channels, Nick has become a thought leader in personal growth and change, and now ranks in the top 10% of coaches worldwide.

Connect with Nick

-Website: https://thepeopledispleaser.com/

-YouTube: www.youtube.com/@peopledispleaser

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepeopledispleaser/

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