CLOSER Episode 9: Origins Part 2
Dec 20, 2024
Ryan and Nicole share the evolution of their relationship from first meeting to their heartfelt engagement. They explore the concept of implicit 'contracts' that partners form, emphasizing the need for discovery and renegotiation over time. Personal anecdotes illustrate the importance of vulnerability and honest communication in building intimacy. They reflect on their journey through early marriage challenges and the significant impact of personal histories on their connection. Finally, they discuss how storytelling shapes understanding and growth within relationships.
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Christmas Proposal
- Ryan proposed to Nicole on Christmas Day with all the family present.
- Nicole was surprised, despite having discussed diamond earrings previously.
Evolving Story
- Nicole realized the origin story is less central to their identity now, with 17 more years of relationship experiences.
- The early focus on the origin story stemmed from its importance when their history was shorter.
Breakup Story Evolution
- In previous tellings of the breakup story, Nicole emphasized the painful details, wanting others to know Ryan put her "through the wringer".
- Now, she downplays those details, suggesting less emotional investment in that specific narrative.