Naomi Rothman, a psychologist at Lehigh University specializing in mixed emotions, shares her insights on ambivalence and its complexities. She discusses how feeling both happy and sad can affect our perceptions and relationships, especially in leadership roles. With personal anecdotes, she highlights the societal preference for decisive leaders and the often misunderstood nature of mixed emotions in professional settings. Rothman emphasizes that embracing this emotional complexity can enhance creativity and enrich our connections with others.
Naomi Rothman's research highlights how experiencing mixed emotions, or ambivalence, can complicate decision-making and social interactions.
Despite its challenges, embracing ambivalence can enhance cognitive flexibility and encourage more collaborative problem-solving in leadership contexts.
Deep dives
The Transformative Power of Team Sports
Naomi Rothman shares her experience as a shy high school student who found empowerment and confidence through her involvement in a travel soccer team. The camaraderie she built with teammates dubbed the 'Red Hot Chili Peppers' not only enhanced her self-worth but also created deep friendships. However, this joy was complicated by an intense rivalry when her team faced their local rivals from Harbor High, which forced her to grapple with mixed emotions of affection and competition. This early experience of being emotionally pulled in opposite directions sparked Rothman’s interest in understanding ambivalence as a psychologist later in life.
Understanding Emotional Ambivalence
Rothman studies ambivalence— the coexistence of conflicting emotions— often leading individuals to experience discomfort. Ambivalence can manifest in everyday scenarios, such as deciding whether to purchase a popular toy for her daughter, creating an internal conflict reflected in her indecision and subsequent action. This emotional turmoil illustrates how ambivalence affects decision-making processes and influences one's perception of social pressures, as evidenced by her encounters with other parents eager to secure the same toy. This tension exemplifies the broader implications of how mixed emotions can dictate both personal and social dynamics.
Perceptions of Ambivalence in Leadership
In her research, Rothman highlights how expressing ambivalence in professional settings, particularly for leaders, can lead to negative perceptions, such as a lack of confidence and decisiveness. During a pivotal meeting with renowned academics, Rothman experienced backlash when she shared her mixed feelings instead of asserting authority, which ultimately shifted the dynamic in the conversation. This finding is compounded by evidence that when company leaders display ambivalence during earnings calls, they attract skepticism from analysts, reflecting societal expectations for decisiveness. This pattern reinforces the perception that indecision in high-stakes environments, like politics or business, can have severe repercussions.
The Positive Aspects of Ambivalence
Despite its drawbacks, Rothman reveals that ambivalence can also foster cognitive flexibility and collaborative problem-solving. For instance, her studies suggest that individuals experiencing mixed emotions can be more receptive to advice and make more accurate judgments, as conflicting feelings prompt deeper analysis of situations. This insight underscores the value of ambivalence in leadership, where acknowledging uncertainty can lead to more thorough discussions and better-informed decisions. Ultimately, embracing ambivalence allows individuals and leaders alike to navigate complex emotional landscapes, fostering resilience and adaptability in the face of challenges.
Sometimes we feel just one single feeling with overwhelming force. We're joyously happy. We're crushingly sad. But sometimes it's more complicated than that: We feel happy and sad at the same time. This week, we revisit a favorite 2022 episode with psychologist Naomi Rothman, who shares her research on the mixed emotion of ambivalence. She explores how being of two minds changes the way we think, and how it changes the way others see us.
Did you catch the first two episodes in our Emotions 2.0 series? You can find them in this podcast feed, or on our website, hiddenbrain.org. Thanks for listening!
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