From Shy to Shine: The Feel-It-Till-You-Believe-It Approach to Confidence and Social Courage with Nina Pérez

Nov 6, 2025

Nina Pérez, a connection coach and TEDx Energizer, shares her inspiring journey from a shy child to a confident speaker. She reveals how dance unlocked her charisma and emphasizes the importance of truly feeling confident instead of faking it. Nina discusses using multiple identities to adapt energy in different contexts and offers practical tips for rebuilding social confidence. With an engaging approach, she highlights the role of community in personal growth and provides tools for deepening connections and overcoming awkward small talk.

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ANECDOTE

Dance As The Catalyst For Visibility

Nina Pérez was a shy child who became visible through dance after her parents enrolled her in classes.
Dance uncovered multiple sides of her and catalyzed her transformation into a charismatic speaker and coach.

ADVICE

Create An Experience Before Showing Up

Create an embodied experience to shift your state using music, breath, or mirror work before high-stakes moments.
Use eye-contact exercises and rituals so your body actually feels the new energy, not just your thoughts.

INSIGHT

Choose Which Identity To Embody

Identities are multiple and selectable; you can choose to embody playful mom, capable CEO, or inspired speaker depending on context.
Dance taught Nina that different energies live in one person and can be intentionally chosen to match intention.

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Have you ever met someone whose energy lights up the whole room — and wondered how they do it? That effortless mix of confidence, warmth, and charisma that just draws you in? That’s exactly what we’re unpacking in this week’s episode — the secret sauce behind authentic confidence and connection. Get ready for a conversation that will make you want to move, laugh, and maybe even dance your way into the version of you that feels magnetic, grounded, and unapologetically yourself.

In this episode, Carol and Alex are joined by Nina Pérez, connection coach, TEDx Energizer, and self-proclaimed “recovering shy girl.” From hiding behind her parents as a child to captivating audiences on global stages, Nina shares how dance became her portal to discovering charisma and how the same principles that make someone magnetic on the dance floor can elevate your presence in business and life.

💃 Here’s what you’ll learn:

Why the “fake it till you make it” mindset doesn’t work, and what to do instead (“feel it till you believe it”).
How to tap into multiple identities, the playful mom, the confident CEO, the inspired speaker, and consciously choose which energy you want to bring to each moment.
The art of social courage: building meaningful in-person and virtual connections without draining your energy.
How small, intentional steps can rebuild your confidence after years of playing small or hiding behind a screen.
Why charisma has many flavors, and how to find your own unique blend of warmth and competence.

This conversation is a must-listen for high-achieving women who feel the pull to lead authentically, reconnect socially after years of digital disconnection, or simply step into the next chapter of their leadership with renewed confidence and grace.

✨ Reflective prompts to take with you:

What story do you tell yourself before walking into new spaces — and how might you rewrite it?
Which “identity” would you love to embody more often in your daily life?
What small step could you take this week to stretch your social courage muscle?

If you’re ready to embody confidence, rediscover your charisma, and connect more deeply with yourself and others — this episode is your permission slip to shine.

👉 Connect with Nina:
LinkedIn – Nina Pérez
Instagram – @connectwithnina
Explore her free Confidence & Charisma Masterclass

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