The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} EP. 165: What’s Up With Rude & Disrespectful Behaviors?
Sometimes it’s those lower-level, chronic behaviors- like rudeness and sassiness- that can really deplete the very limited reserves we have saved up in our own window of stress tolerance. Then we waffle between over-responding (big reaction, tiny problem) or under-responding (ignoring dysregulation which ultimately leads to increased dysregulation).
Kids in chronic protection mode often seem rude, sassy, and mildly oppositional. What do we do when it feels like every word out of our own mouths would be to correct our kid’s tone or disrespect?
In this episode, you’ll learn
- Where sassy, rude, and disrespectful language usually falls on the watchdog continuum
- Possibilities about what really be underneath your child’s rude behavior
- Times when it makes sense for our kids to have a what’s up watchdog brain response that we should respect, not try to change
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