Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

522 - The Power of Denial: Are You Lying to Yourself?

Mar 25, 2025

This discussion dives deep into denial in relationships, exploring how it serves as a defense mechanism to buffer emotional pain. Personal anecdotes reveal the struggle of ignoring red flags and the consequences of avoiding painful truths. They also examine how denial complicates coping with loss, and its potential to distort our perception of time. Through self-reflection exercises, listeners learn to recognize behaviors and confront self-deception, ultimately advocating for acceptance as a pathway to healing.

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Denial often shields individuals from emotional pain during relationship struggles, complicating their ability to confront essential truths.

Self-reflection on denial can reveal patterns of avoidance and misjudgment, prompting necessary shifts toward healthier relationship choices.

Embracing strategies like seeking feedback and self-assessment can help individuals break free from denial and promote personal growth.

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Introduction to the Audiobook

An audiobook version of the book, 'Multi-Emery Essential Tools for Modern Relationships', is now available. This book compiles popular communication tools, such as Radar and the Triforce of Communication, along with real-world examples and worksheets. It serves as a practical resource for those looking to improve their relationship communication without sifting through numerous past episodes. The audiobook and print versions can be found on platforms like Audible, Spotify, and Google Play.

Intro

3min

Understanding Denial in Relationships

20min

Denial and the Complexities of Relationship Loss

5min

Navigating Denial in Relationships

15min

The Illusion of Time and Denial

4min

Understanding Denial and Self-Reflection

2min

Recognizing Discrepancies in Relationships: A Reflective Exercise

3min

Confronting Self-Deception

9min

Today we're tackling a heavy topic: denial. Most of us have dealt with this at one point or another, especially when it comes to relationships, whether it's denial that that relationship is over or whether or not someone is attracted to you. We'll be doing a deep dive into why we often fall into denial, whether or not denial can be a helpful force in our lives, and how to know if you're in denial.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.
Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.
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