Episode 147: Judgements Part 1: Are They Always Bad?
Jan 13, 2024
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The podcast explores the concept of judgment, including both harmful and necessary judgments. It discusses the delicate balance between caring for someone and allowing them to make their own choices, as well as the importance of compassion and discernment when providing feedback. The podcast also shares personal stories about confronting potential Medicare fraud, counseling clients with substance abuse and anger management issues, and helping a homeless woman overcome her alcohol problem.
A non-judgmental mind brings peace by refraining from personal judgments and negative attitudes.
It is important to exercise judgment and set boundaries when the well-being of loved ones is at risk.
Deep dives
The Importance of Seeing People as Innately Healthy
The podcast challenges the assumption that people are psychologically broken and need to be fixed. It advocates for seeing people as innately healthy, which simplifies the process of dealing with mental distress and allows for more profound and immediate changes.
The Role of Judgments in Interactions
The podcast explores the role of judgments in our interactions with others. It discusses how judgments can be both positive and negative, and how they affect our relationships. It emphasizes the importance of discernment and making judgments based on behavior rather than judging the person themselves.
Setting Boundaries and Speaking the Truth
The podcast highlights the importance of setting boundaries and speaking the truth, even if it may be perceived as judgmental by others. It shares stories of setting boundaries with clients engaged in harmful behaviors, such as Medicare fraud or substance abuse. It emphasizes the need for honesty and love in communicating with others, even if they may not initially appreciate it.
Not being judgmental does not mean not using common sense to speak up or act honestly when we see people we care about or people we serve doing things that are contrary to living at peace, in harmony with life. Syd says "a non-judgmental mind is a mind at peace." That refers to things like personal judgments -- resentments, attitudes towards certain types of people or negativity, things that carry a bad feeling. But, for example, if you know someone you love is using dangerous drugs, the loving thing to do is to exercise your judgment that you will not encourage drug use or overlook it. It would make no sense to support the person's drug use to avoid looking judgmental.